Next Wave has their November issue out. Always good reading. Here's an excerpt from an article called "Incarnational Mentoring":
Learning the ways of Jesus is more like making pickles than listing the fruits of the Spirit in a classroom using a PowerPoint presentation. You cannot diagram or sprinkle salt on a cucumber to get a pickle—you have to soak them in salt water. To look like, and then leak the life of Jesus one must “soak” in a mentoring relationship, absorbing the things you are unaware of at the moment until one day you become conscience that you are a “pickle,” a different kind of person with a new serenity and love, a different kind of mercy and grace, a different kind or humility and openness.